Never the bridesmaid, never the bride. Is it wrong that I am secretly glad that I've never been asked to physically take part in a wedding? I've helped on the sidelines - made the cake (and, for a few, a heck of a lot of cupcakes), gave advice, etc - but never something on a grand scale. (My luck the dress would truly be awful haha.)
I wonder if men realize how much thought women put into this event, from the time they're a child running around dressed like a princess all the way up to the day of the big event. It's something instilled in us our whole lives - and we're looked down upon by others when they see no ring on our finger ... "Why are you not married ... YET?" as if there's something wrong with us, a horrible disease.
Just like with grief, there are steps a woman goes through after a man asks her to marry him:
1. Utter happiness, excitement
2. Self-doubt (Am I going to make a good wife? Will I make
3. Doubt in him (Is he the man for me? Is he who I'm supposed
to be with? Will he make a good husband, a good father?)
4. Planning mode - She's realized she was silly about her doubts
and begins planning the wedding of her dreams, which can be a
5. Over emotional - Right before the wedding, because of all the
stress she's going through, she's going to become emotional.
It's inevitable (especially if she's got a lot of work left to do
and is having to deal with crazy family members/future in-laws).
Some take this to the level of Bridezilla, but no all.
6. Once she sees you standing at the front of the aisle, the look on
your face, happiness will overwhelm her, sometimes accompanied
Her up-coming nuptials have me thinking, which is odd because 1) I've pretty much given up on the whole Prince-Charming-happily-ever-after thing and 2) it's not like I have a potential mate anywhere, but I still think.
I would definitely be an anti-Bridezilla (yes, it's a secret vice of mine to watch those women behave badly and wonder why those people, especially the future husbands, stick around) - I like to do everything myself, early, and rarely (if at all) ask for anyone's help.